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How to Get Started With Affirmations (As A Skeptic)

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Positive self-confidence affirmations are one of the most powerful tools that you can use to create a more positive internal dialogue.

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 Many people have developed powerful affirmations that bring about change in their behaviors and circumstances. When you repeatedly say positive phrases about yourself and your situation, the effects on your mental state and your environment can be pretty profound. It’s easy to be skeptical of affirmations.

I know I have been. Now as much as I enjoy crystal healing, reading my horoscope and putting lavender essential oil on my pillow…. I’m a woman of science. So when The Secret became popular around 15 years ago, I just rolled my eyes.

Over the years, when engaging in different forms of therapy, I’ve always been encouraged to treat myself a little kinder, and show myself a bit of compassion or self-care. After discovering self-care ideas for mothers (that I could actually do with the 20 minutes my baby actually napped for) I realised something… The better I treated myself, the better I felt. (Well duh)


How to Do Affirmations

This doesn’t have to be a “stand in the mirror and declare undying love for yourself” situation. 

You can go that route with your affirmations if you want to.

Here’s a little explainer of what affirmations are.

 Daily affirmations are statements that describe your goals in their completed states. You improve your physical health with regular physical exercises, so you should be using daily affirmations as a mental exercise for your mind, as well as your perception. When you repeat your positive affirmations daily, and you believe in them, you can start to create a positive change in your life.

They are so much more effective when you couple them with  visualization.

 Instead of just writing your affirmations down and repeating them out loud, you can also visualize the outcome that you want to see. What this does is help you truly envision yourself in the position of achieving your end goal. Whether that’s a physical change or a mental one. 

Affirmation quote

In your high school English class, you were taught the difference between affirmative, negative, and interrogative sentences. Stop using negative sentences, like “I no longer suffer from migraines,” and consciously convert them into positive affirmations, like “I live a pain-free life.” When you try to conceive a negative statement or thought in your mind, you have to convert it to a positive statement if you want it to be effective.

If the above made  you “huh”, basically.. Talking yoda helps your brain be a little more positive.

The three pillars of an effective affirmation are content, emotion and positivity. 

Content being what you want the outcome to be , the positivity pushes the content forward and the emotion gets to the heart of how you’re feeling about the outcome of what you’re hoping to acheieve.

 Repeating the right positive words to yourself can manifest change in your life on a large scale. And I don’t mean dumb shit like “I’m going to be Princess of Mars”. 

If you want help getting started, you could try a guided affirmation meditation. Like this one by Louise Hay.

How Do Affirmations Work?

The beliefs that we hold are just patterns that we’ve learned and developed over the years. There are a number of things throughout our lives that play a role in shaping our beliefs. Some of these might be supporting and nurturing, while others might be roadblocks on our paths to achieving happiness.

Positive affirmations are a great way to change the barriers into supportive and encouraging truths. You can use self-care affirmations to keep you moving forward. 

Everyone has something in their life that they would like to change. Do you wish you could have more patience? Do you want to be more productive at work? Consider several areas or behaviors that you would like to work on in your life and write them down. You want to make sure that they are compatible with your core values and those things that matter to you.

This will keep you motivated to achieve them.

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Set Of Positive Affirmation Cards

If you struggle with negative self-talk, take the time to write down the persistent thoughts and beliefs that are bothering you. Then write an affirmation that is the opposite of that belief. For example, if you always think that you aren’t talented enough to move ahead in your career, turn it around and write an affirmation like, “I am an experienced and skilled professional.”

For your affirmation to be effective, you have to write it in the present tense, as if it is already happening to you. Writing in the present tense helps your subconscious to believe that the statement is true.

 Why doesn’t affirmation work for me?

If you want to get the most out of your self-confidence affirmations, you have to turn the practice into a habit. This means that you should repeat your statements at the same time every day. 

The best times to practice is obviously whenever you’ll find you can remember to but generally the same times will be a benefit. If that means first things in the morning or last thing before sleep (or both) then that is great! 

Many people don’t see results from their daily affirmations because they are merely doing it for the sake of doing it. They aren’t associating any emotions or feelings with their affirmations. If you want these to work for you, then you have to include positive feeling words in your affirmations. 

 How to create your own affirmations

To get started writing a positive affirmation for your life, you have to think about what you really want. Think about what would make your life happier and write those thoughts down. The essential part of creating positive affirmations is ensuring that you are completely clear about what you want without worrying about the when or the how.

I really encourage you to see the previous step if you are having negative self-talk as that will be a massive roadblock and basically override your hard work in creating words of encouragement for yourself.

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Manifestation Planner

When you’ve figured out what it is in life you really want, you need to figure out the traits or means needed to get it. List between two and six things. Your traits or attributes  are the things that you need to be, rather than the things that you need to do. Once you’ve written these out, circle a few that you believe to be the most essential attributes that you will need to embody to reach your goal.

Once you have your desires and attributes written down, it’s time to write the affiramation.

You want to create a statement that is empowering, emotive and 1-2 sentences. (Tall order!)

This can be challenging, so you should write down some ideas as they come to you and repeat them out loud. (This might feel silly but don’t worry, self-love soon become a habit).

Now that you’ve created a self confidence affirmations, it’s time to practice it and repeat it often. You want to be sure to repeat these words every day. To help you remember to say your statements you set a reminder on your phone, you can set your phone’s background to a picture of your affirmation, so you see it every time you use your phone, or you can put them on Post-Its and place them around your home or office. Do whatever works for you.

Words of encouragement are incredibly helpful in helping you achieve your desires as long as you do them correctly. You have the power to use your mind to create the future you desire.

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