- 1 As a mom, I am always looking for how to stop over thinking.
- 2 How to stop over thinking and relax
- 3 Write it on your daily schedule.
- 4 Tip #2: Work on making exercise a priority.
- 5 Tip #3: Begin writing in a journal every day.
- 6 These are great ways to relieve anxiety and how to stop over thinking (as well as calm your nerves), so give them a try.
As a mom, I am always looking for how to stop over thinking.
Being a parent is the hardest job on the planet. I don’t care what anybody says. It’s true. You are simultaneously a babysitter, chef, chauffeur, housekeeper. schedule maker, party planner, and probably a billion other things I’m forgetting.
All of that can lead to significant overwhelm. You have to juggle a million things at a time, because, you know, you’re trying to keep humans alive.
Daunting much? Are you surprised that so many moms live with chronic anxiety I am definitely one of them.
I wanted to share some of my favorite, most helpful tips for managing over thinking. They don’t cost a lot of money, and they’re things anyone can do.
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How to stop over thinking and relax
Tip #1: Make sure you are getting adequate self care.
The phrase self-care is everywhere. And with good reason. We are living in an unprecedented season of school closings, layoffs, and social distancing. As moms, it is more important than ever that we are taking care of ourselves on a daily basis. This is super critical for getting your anxiety under control and how to slow racing thoughts.
Here is a good way to think about it: If mom’s not good, no one in the house is. We are the glue that holds the family together, as even I think most of our partners would admit.
So, how do you manage to squeeze this time in?
Ask your spouse or partner for help
They are going to be your best resource in your quest to ditch your rumination and worry. I know it can be hard to ask for help. I’ve struggled with that in the past. But I’ve recently begun working with my therapist to be better at it, because it’s really important.
A lot of times, they don’t even see us struggling. We are so used to managing it all, and wearing so many hats, that this becomes our normal routine. We multitask until we feel like we’re going to fall apart, but oftentimes our partner remains oblivious.
After all, if you don’t tell them you’re having a hard time, how are they supposed to know? Sure, in a perfect world, they would be able to tell. But it’s far from perfect and sometimes our partners need a little guidance.
So, let them know that you need their help looking after the kids so you can get a little time to yourself more often.
Write it on your daily schedule.
This is what I do, and it’s really helpful. As moms, we become slaves to our planner. We have our entire days mapped out from the mom we wake up until we collapse into bed in exhaustion. Heck, I even structure my free time! (Read for one hour, watch 2 episodes of “Cold Case Files”…)
We have so much going on that if something’s not on the to-do list, it’s not getting done, period. This is why you have to get into the habit of marking on your calendar when you’re going to get your self care time in. Even if it’s just 15 minutes.
It’s important for your kids to see.
It’s good for a couple of reasons. First of all, it could help them behave better for you, and develop a sense of empathy. Wow, mom needs this time to herself. She must be tired, or sad, etc. Maybe I should XYZ. They see that parenting is not an easy job.
That leads me to my next reason. You getting better self-care shows your kids what parenting should be. They learn the lesson that if they become a parent one day, it is crucial to take care of themselves. You doing this for yourself sets them up for success later in life.
Tip #2: Work on making exercise a priority.
No, exercise is not always fun. Yes, it’s important for your mental health. There are lots of mental health benefits from breaking a sweat. Here are just a few:
- Can prevent mood issues
- Better neural growth
- Improved sense of calm
- Releases endorphins
- Provides you a distraction
And that’s just scratching the surface. We all need to try to get at the very minimum 15 minutes of physical activity a few times a week.
No one expects you to run a marathon right out of the gate. And that’s probably not even healthy. Instead, start slow. Take some time to figure out what sorts of movement bring you joy. For me, I love using the treadmill or weight training while I listen to true crime podcasts. Whatever you have to do to make it enjoyable and duplicatable.
Make a SMART goal.
I love SMART goals. If that’s a new phrase for you, what it means is making goals that are Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, and Timebound.
So, for instance instead of saying: I want to be a runner, say: I will commit to running on the treadmill 3 times a week for 30 minutes by the end of June. As long as it meets all of the 5 requirements, it is a good goal!
Find someone to hold you accountable.
This is what really helped me when I was in tip top shape. I had a friend that I could message and talk about our workouts with. We sent each other encouraging messages, and asked for advice when needed. She definitely helped keep me motivated!
Make sure you pick someone who is a very positive person, and someone who is responsible enough to respond to messages and give you honest feedback.
Tip #3: Begin writing in a journal every day.
Journaling has a lot of really amazing benefits. It helps you to get a better sense of clarity. And I think there is a lot of power to seeing your thoughts written down. So often, it’s hard to see our thoughts objectively. But when we can see them in black and white, so to speak, it helps us to see how illogical they really are!
Here are my top tips for starting your journaling habit:
Set a reminder on your phone.
This is pretty much how I remember to do anything as a mom. I use the TickTick app for all my to-do lists. (There is a free and paid version, and no, I am not being paid to mention them.) I make sure I have a daily reminder set to write in my journal.
If you’re uninspired, try some prompts.
Right now, I am doing the following. First, I write 3 things I am grateful for that day. Then, I write down an intention I have for the next day. Lastly, I write down a positive affirmation I want to work on.
If you aren’t sure what to write try starting with one of the following:
- What is your top mental health goal?
- Who inspires you and why?
- If you could change anything about your life, what would it be and why?
Write down things you’re grateful for.
This is how I always begin my entries. Practicing daily gratitude has a lot of great benefits for your heart and mind, and is a simple (FREE) way to begin your day. For one thing, it can improve your relationships. Everyone likes to be told “thank you!”
These are great ways to relieve anxiety and how to stop over thinking (as well as calm your nerves), so give them a try.
You may not notice any relief right away. These things take time, and most of all, patience. You have to be kind to yourself in the healing process. After all, you are trying to do something that feels impossible for many people.
We all need some relief from anxiety at times, so cut yourself some slack, and get to work.
Jen (the writer behind the blog, Diffusing the Tension) lives in Northwest Indiana with her husband and two children (ages 4.5 and 3). She has bipolar disorder and frequently writes about her experiences with that. In her spare time, she is OBSESSED with true crime. She is also a bookworm, TV junkie, and fitness nut.
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